Leet Skillz

I have been thinking a lot over the past few days about the skills required to be a girlfriend and to be a wife. I've been trying to figure out how much overlap there is, and how I can improve "Girlfriend skills" to be an attractive option to ask on dates. I've decided that many of these skills are transferable from Girlfriend to Wife: good sense of humour, taking care of yourself physically, being friendly and affectionate; but many of the Wife skills are not seen as a high priority in Girlfriends.


I may be wrong, but so far I have observed that skills such as running a household efficiently, the ability to compromise, childcare skills, and being responsible are not as high a priority for YSA guys as being fun and flirty. Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not suggesting that "wife" and "flirty" are mutually exclusive concepts, nor that they should be. I have noticed, however, that the girls that get dates are the girls with attractive bodies/faces and flirty mannerisms, rather than the girls with inquisitive minds and strong testimonies.


I wouldn't necessarily put myself at either of those extremes, but I have friends at both ends of the spectrum and I know which girls have to do more asking to go on the same number of dates. I know that the sort of guy I want to marry would not be intimidated to ask a girl out because she answered more questions in institute than him, but I'm not sure that that sort of guy exists in my area. (Or at all!)


So, on to plan B, make it easier for the guys to ask me out ... be more fun and flirty, and pay more attention to my physical appearance. It's still learning new skills, and even if it doesn't result in more dates, it will help to make me a better person. I just have to make sure I don't let that pendulum swing too far in the opposite direction, and I will find a happy medium between my current skills and those that are in higher demand during my dating career.